You're On Your Own

“Some days are easier said than done;
Always expecting something's wrong.
I'd rather live alone than drag this on.

Take your time- please lay your hands on me;
Don't wanna be alone, oh no;
A mask behind the face and then you're gone;
Oh,yeah- comes a time when you're better off alone;
You're on your own.

I've got a kaleidoscope of memories;
Visions of you locked up inside of me;
Can't you see.

We once collided like a broken wheel;
So undecided what was real;
Maybe a crash somehow has sex appeal;
Whatever turns you on.

Take your time- please lay your hands on me;
Don't wanna be alone, oh no;
A mask behind a face and then you're gone;
Oh yeah- comes a time when you're better off alone.”

--Rick Nielson of Cheap Trick from Carnival Games, from Cheap Trick (Red Ant, 1997)

I always vowed not to make this too personal and keep it light-hearted to a degree, but many folks read this, and many folks keep in touch with me through this blog.

At this point, it is best to let folks know that Pam and I have separated.

Some folks have displayed some surprise and others have not. Some folks have told me that there is a gambit of emotions I will experience and some say the time will go quickly on. I tend to vote on the latter for both of us. That said, we are individuals and we will deal with this as such—so we believe that neither is to blame and both share the responsibility. There is, honestly, no hostility.

Foggy, Guinness and Chumley will stay with me and Pam has moved with Dylan.

There will be adjustments and there will be changes—but this is honestly the best for both of us. We do not think that it is fair to continue going the way we have “acted” over the last ten years or so.

Something changed for both of us, within both of us, about both of us, and towards both of us. The last thing we want is to dislike or feel anger towards the other. That does not mean there will not be some hurt or other emotions, but we are both truly "fine" with this.

Both of us felt a relief just on making the decision.

Pam may have thought this might be harder for me, but truly, I will be good. I am fine with this move and with the situation. The acknowledgement was difficult, but once I made it, I understood what had to happen.

Judge us not, please. Understand that we will not allow others to say bad things about either of us. We also will not blame ourselves or each other. As the lyrics suggest, there comes a time when it is better off to be alone.

Excuse me if this forum is a tacky one, but as I have often noted; this blog is just as much an outlet for my thoughts as it is a place to entertain.

Something more entertaining next time—I promise.